Colombian men and women are known for their good looks worldwide. However, good looks aren’t the only thing Colombian men are known for. Dating a Colombian man comes with its challenges to say the least.
It’s intense. You will love and laugh harder than ever before, but you might also feel other emotions exponentially: jealousy, rage and maybe even obsession.
I decided to reach out to a few women who share their experiences of meeting and dating a Colombian man.
Unfortunately, all of them but one asked to remain anonymous. They are women in their 20s and 30s who come from all different continents. Let’s see if you can spot a particular trend amongst the beautiful Colombian men of this country.
Below are the testimonials of real woman who share the particularities of dating a Colombian man.
“You’ll finally be aware of just how bad people dance in your country and how wonderfully lucky you are to have your dancing man.” -Anonymous
“Your experience going out with a Colombian man differs based on the region which he is from. For example, men from central Colombian are more open and it’s not as common for them to date different women at the same time. Nonetheless, they’re not as good dancers.”
-Lina from Patoneando.com
“Colombian men tend to invite you to everything when you go out on a date and they’re always making sure you’re having a good time. What I can’t stand is that the majority of them are very machistas and often times date several women at once”
-Lina from Patoneando.com
“I’ve found that Colombian guys are all about the big, empty promises. For example: “I would love to take you to Villa de Leyva” and “then when you meet my best friends…” or “I’m going to cook you this amazing meal at my finca,” which they all tend to say really early on into dating, at a time when you wouldn’t normally plan to do such serious things. And of course, they never follow through. I have no idea why they feel they need to promise all those things early on. Perhaps it’s all part of the sell? Either way, it’s annoying as fuck. When I say I am going to do something, or introduce you to someone, or say “I love you”, I say it at the appropriate time and I follow through on my promises. It’s as simple and as complicated as that.” -Anonymous
“A Colombian man requires a lot of attention. I find them very attached, demanding, and they want to be with you every second!” -Anonymous
“I am shocked at the lack of and comfort talking about sexual health and protection. I’ve been with a couple of very well educated, sophisticated guys who tried to have sex with me the first time without a condom (and they didn’t ask if I was on birth control, either)!!! It freaked me out because I was like “Whoa, I thought you were a smart guy, this is some pretty basic stuff?!” It seems as though it is still taboo to talk about STDs and birth control, which is appalling. It’s a matter of public health!” -Anonymous
“A Colombian man bases his notion of what a woman should be like after his female family members. They expect women to be very feminine. Earrings are a MUST; if you don’t wear them, you are not a woman. The longer your hair, the most attractive you are.” -Anonymous
“Colombian men are very attached to their land and family. Most of the foreign girls I’ve met who live in Bogota have moved because of their partners. Although Colombians travel abroad, they eventually feel the need to come back to their homeland and be close to their family.” -Anonymous
“Personal space and privacy can be inexistent in many Colombian families. Information and intimate details of one’s personal life will travel across the entire family at the speed of lightning. This isn’t always so pleasant, as everyone feels entitled to their 2 cents about your relationship decisions.” -Anonymous
“Colombian men NEED women, and even if they may have many women in their lives, there is always JUST one who they will love forever.”-Anonymous
“A Colombian man loves to be pampered, and loves to be right.”-Anonymous
“Colombian men seem to be generally quite sensitive so this can be something that brings some extra drama (or romance) to relationships. Also, pick a good one as loads seem to be either unfaithful or machista, or both.” -Anonymous
“A Colombian man will treat his woman with gentleness, warmth and love. He will always look out for this woman and go out of his way to make her happy.” -Anonymous
“Colombians love European women, but they have hard time accepting cultural differences.”-Anonymous
“Conflict is a fundamental part of a relationship.”
-Anonymous
Having a hard time yourself? You’re not alone girlfriend! Drop me a message in the comment box down below if there’s a confession you’d like to add to the list!
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I am a guy. My ex gf is Colombian and I’ve spent some time there.. There is no such thing as a faithful Colombian man or woman. It’s expected and tolerated that they have a side chick (mosa). Think that you and his mother have a good relationship and she would say something right?!? Wrong.. She will have her son and his other girlfriend over and she will even cook for the both of them as you’re at home by yourself or worse with his child.. I’ve seen it happen. The women often have multiple bfs at a time.. this one for love, the other for money, the other because he takes me places. Just as an fyi.. Colombian women are not shy about approaching men and prostitution is legal.
I Was dating a Colombian man for a year, things were fine or so I thought. I didn’t hear from him for 2 days and when I questioned him and said I was worried he said “don’t worry.” Another 2 days goes by and I again ask him what’s going on. He basically breaks up with me with 2 bogus reasons about being frustrated with language barrier and our relationship not progressing. This is so frustrating, upsetting and confusing for me as it’s the complete opposite of what he had been saying and doing the past year together. Any issues he would always say “we will solve it together.” I periodically asked how he was feeling about the language barrier/cultural differences and he said all was fine. I was purposely following his lead as far as the relationship progressing - at no time did he initiate discussions about moving in together or any other progression. (He understood about 50-70% English, I was slowly learning Spanish). I asked to talk, but no response from him. Later I asked for some closure so I could begin to move on. He read the message but has not responded. I am just so confused. Did not expect this behavior from him.
I am not dating a Colombian guy but I have met one and I am crushing on him hard. I told him that I really liked him and he told me that he was not looking for a relationship right now. But it’s also confusing because he is very flirty: gives out flowers to me, invites me over to his place to have drinks and talk or watch a movie, he’ll tease me by tickling me or mess with my hair. He’ll come over to my place and we will drink and dance together! He has kissed me twice but says it won’t happen again. He loves to travel and loves to work in National parks. I somehow dont believe that he doesn’t not like me. I feel like he does like me but then keeps saying he just wants to be friends. I have been having feelings for this man but he is extremely confusing! I need advice or help with this.
Nope, nope. Hes not confusing. He just wsnt sex and hes making clear that i dint want any commitment. He has you right where he needs you to be. He doesnt want to be available to you in that sense, dont make yourself available to him that way. You are to open.
Hi Lydia nice to hear about your history
Where did you meet this guy
Hey Lidya,
Thank you for sharing your story. I would suggest you to take your time, I would like to know wher you met this Guy
Hey Lydia ,
Nice to hear about your story. I would definitely say take ur time and try again with him if you really feel love for him..by the way where did you meet this Guy.
I've been dating a colombian man for 2 years now. And he's the most sweetest loving person I've ever met. And I'm Caucasian with blonde hair blue eyes and pale skin and he's attracted to that. His family adores me and his mom is colombian and she's from colombia and she married to a Caucasian guy after her first marriage. I have to say colombian men are very protective and very affectionate. He always calls to make sure I get home safe and worries about me being out at night. I couldn't have asked for a better man and we have the same birthday never knew I could meet someone from a different culture that has the same birthday as me and his culture is very nice he was taught how to treat woman with respect like he does to me. I cook,clean and take care of him and he helps as well this is my first time dating a spanish guy and I'm blown away on how well they treat their women.
Hello everyone, as a heterosexual Colombian man, I must say that I see with sadness the bad reputation we have. Like anywhere in the world there are bad men, but there are also good men. I want to say four things. 1) The Colombian man is hardworking, very strong and protective of his family, he is very competent and confident in his abilities, they are very clean, they like to use perfumes and be well dressed for women, as well as good dancers and lovers. They love their wives and their children. 2) The majority of women who date foreigners discredit Colombian men as a justification for now trying a relationship with a foreigner. 3) In Colombia, infidelity between men and women is almost equally shared, 45%-55%, men are slightly more unfaithful. The question is, where do the women with whom men are unfaithful come from? But I must say that not all men and women are unfaithful, that depends on each person, I know many examples of men who are faithful and dedicated to their families. 4) Colombian men genuinely like foreign women, we love sharing our culture and learning about other cultures and different ways of life. We learn and grow. We like interculturality and appreciate beauty in different ways. Women, don't be fooled, first get to know Colombian men, believe me why there are so many Colombian women in love with us.
Hello, thank you for providing some clarity on dating a Colombian man. I am sort of dating one, casual I guess. We have been seeing each other for 9 months. He almost never follows through in plans, and often blows me off and then comes back with "I am sorry" and excuses of why. I also am helping him with his start-up business, like a lot of hours. I don't want money or equity, just doing it because I really like him. I should mention that I am 15 years older than him. Which he says he loves, because I am mature and accomplished etc.. We had a conversation a few months ago about the word love and what it means to him. He said that in Colombia there are two words for love that mean very different things (I don't remember the names). One means I am romantically in love with you and the other is I care about you. After this conversation he asked me if I loved hm and after some thought I said yes. And I meant it. I explained the reasons I feel this way and he agreed he felt much of the same and then blurted out "Ok! Yes, I do love you." We also talked about how he was not wanting to get into a committed relationship as he was coming off an intense (T
TOXIC and Co-dependent one), which I get and is smart. I did not ever ask to be girlfriend and boyfriend.
Now, since then he has said I love you to me, sometimes when he has been drinking, maybe 3 or 4 times. Tonight we were talking and he apparently caught covid from his roommate who used to be his girlfriend (yeah, I know. They may not be "together" but I am 100% sure they are sleeping together given he has not moved out yet) and has been feeling bad. Side note: He is looking for a place to move out the end of this month. I asked him to please let me know when he is not feeling well and not go radio silent on me for 3 days. He apologized, with some lame excuse of the girlfriend complicate situation..blah blah blah. He then said " I love you" 3 times during the conversation and I said "I love you too." At the end of the call, I said "feel better and I love you". He then back peddled and said "it is not real love, which felt like a knife in my gut, and then told me the same story of the two words that have different meaning and he means he cares a lot for me. WTAF do I do with that? I have no idea what the hell he feels, and frankly I am pretty sure he does not either. But HELP! Any thoughts? My gut, and I usually am spot on, is that he does he is just afraid to say because he thinks I am going to want to be exclusive, which we are not and I am not either. I have other men I see.
I forgot to mention. He told his entire family about me one day when he was at my house for the weekend. His mother, father and both brother and sister. Told them how amazing I am, beautiful, supportive, kind, loving etc.. Now that blew me away. I am thinking that is a BIG deal for a Colombian man to tell his entire family about me while I was sitting there.
Dated an early to mid 40s Colombian man who had a great work background. His demeanor and confidence caught my eye first. It was all charming and lots of besos. We were 13 hours apart so yes, it was long distance all the while with video calls, phone calls, texts, and voice notes. Language-wise, we knew we were worlds apart with me speaking English and basic Spanish (I am from a very small country in Southeast Asia) and him the opposite. However, it worked, thanks to a translator. But all the charms and muchos besos para ti suddenly disappear. He only responds when he is free or convenient for him. I still miss him, but one thing is for sure, I agree with an earlier comment that Colombian man thinks he is always right and they will never apologise even if they contribute to the problem.
My close friend used be in a relationship with a guy from Colombia. Everything seemed to be perfect. Although it was a long distance relationship, everything was working out nicely. She came to see him twice. She was h as over heels on love with him. He proposed to her and they were supposed to get married. All of a sudden, the pandemic took its toll on the entire communication and they were both disillusioned. However, when things were gradually coming back on track and she started wondering when they would see each other again, he used to come up with a lame excuse - "Oh, the tickets are expensive, or, the hotel is not cheap". She has been suffering for quite a long time, hoping he would change his attitude. Unfortunately it never happened. Finally, she texted him while being very close to him geographically and asked him whether he would opt for coming to see her. Guess what he said ?
Came up with a lame excuse about the high cost of the tickets. I am convinced he had stared dating someone else and for some reason did not want to break the news to my friend. As for me, it seems to be ridiculous - why one has to keep manipulating other person's feeling instead of just telling the truth? And all the messages were accompanied with these sweet confessions - " Baby, I love you do much I wish we coul see each other again, blah, blah, blah"
So the bottom line is that my friend took a plunge and broke up with him telling him that she had enough and would hate to spend her life for something that was never going to happen. She is feeling so much better now.
In my opinion, some Colombian guys are used to tell lies and they do not consider it as something bad, this is just the way they are. So, the only way to communicate with them is to forget about any possible promises, enjoy life and keep one's head cool. But never ever fall into this kind of trap - never let your rational mind be washed away by your emotions. First look at the actions, then listen to what it said. Wishing all the women love and harmony.
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Lina Assad
9:34 PM (8 minutes ago)
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Hi,
Thank you for writing this article on Colombian men. I find it very interesting. I am from the UK. I live and work in the US. I work as a Lawyer. I met a Colombian on social media we started talking about 6 months ago. He disappeared for a bit then came back telling me he did not know why we stopped speaking. .he asked to see more pictures of me and did not want me speaking to other men.or put my pictures out there. Then he said to me do you understand I asked why was he being this way he said he get jealous. He tells me he is crazy about me and he wants to be with me. I am 8 years older than him by 8 years but I do look younger. I told I am too old, he said age does not matter and I look younger and I am beautiful. But I travel for work all over the world. I am a diplomat so I am very busy so sometimes I do not have time to speak with him. He gets annoyed with me.one time I told him to go find other girls to talk to and if he did not find anyone he could come back he told me he was not going anywhere. I went home for my birthday. My sister spoke to him and he told my sister that I must have someone else because I am sending him away. My sister told him no I am single he also told my sister to tell me he is crazy about me he always tells me this. I am being cautious when coming to matters of the heart. I do like him a lot. He is handsome and he knocks me off my feet when I am speaking to someone else from the UK. We are going to meet sometime. He told me he is close to his mother and I am very independent. He said he has not met someone as intelligent and smart and beautiful at the same time. I speak 12 languages to impress me. He wrote to me in Arabic because I am half Middle Eastern and half Scottish. I was impressed by his words telling me I have awakened all the feelings that no other woman made me feel. I was also impressed that he was communicating to me in arabic. For the time being I am enjoying the attention he says he is sincere but only time would tell he is from Bogota and Engineer. He can leave his mother. I told I can not live in Colombia . I have to travel for work and I would be moving to London for work if things work out with us fine if it does not it also ok
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Best Regards,
Emma .
I am dating a Columbian man through social media . I fell in love with him right away . I’m new to the dating scene . I get overwhelmed with new sexual requests that I’m not comfortable with . Then I was told he doesn’t want to around uptight people . Then he said he said yes he loved me . I’m so confused?