Living in the perfect, chaotic, dirty and crazy city that Bogota is, I still have managed to fall in love with it.
I have probably gone through my four stages of culture shock and feel I have adapted relatively well considering our differences. **Read about my living with a traditional and conservative Colombian family.
However, one thing I cannot overcome is the lack of civil education in Bogota.
I don’t understand how people can be so careless about their community and the people around them. This just reinforces the fact that Bogota is a concrete jungle and everyone must stand on their own.
The irony of all this is that when you actually sit down and meet these Colombians face to face, they are some of the nicest and most helpful people you will ever meet.
Last night in my building, I saw spit on the floor outside the elevator door. Who was this perpetrator? Was it a delivery guy? Or could it be one of my neighbors?
Who would do such a thing?!!!
This morning, the guard of my building asked me if I was the one that threw a potted plant out the window. I looked at him in disbelief and couldn’t believe someone would actually do that. After all, it would land in the parking lot and would have to be cleaned up by the cleaning ladies. Even worse, the potted plant that fell off the balcony landed on someone’s car, causing a dent on the roof.
I would like to believe that it was just an accident, however, I’m skeptical…
This is the type of thing that happens all the time here. People have no respect for each other and their surroundings. You would think that this is a class thing, but even the most educated people behave like savages and are the ones that break the most rules. (I won’t talk about the time I saw a woman with a pearl necklace and fancy updo in her Mercedes, driving like a truck driver.)
What’s funny is that the people that behave the worst tend to be well-educated and well-traveled. When they travel abroad to more organized and developed countries, they admire and abide by the rules. However in their own country, even those that describe themselves as proud patriotic Colombians break all the rules. Why? Simply because other people are doing it. What a f*** up mindset.
People don’t care about doing their part to make their community a better place because as no one else is doing the right thing, one single person won’t make a difference, right?
Here are a few examples of the lack of civil education in Bogota I run into on a daily basis.
- Instead of walking on the left side of the street, people occupy the entire sidewalk and sometimes families walk in a horizontal line, making it unable for you to walk past them.
- And it gets 10x worse on ciclovía Sundays.
- Drivers don’t let you through, speed through yellow lights and drive through red lights.
- Pedestrians never have the right-of-way and cars will usually speed up or honk at the site of a pedestrian even when they are doing nothing wrong.
- Although I admit there is a lack of zebra crossings, pedestrians cross wherever they please. This includes on highways, when it’s dark out, and with grandma walking at 2 m.p.h.
- When you want to get on the Transmilenio, the person on the platform in front of you doesn’t move aside to let you through. You have to push your way in.
- No one moves to the back of the bus to make more room for incoming passengers. Not their problem.
- People throw trash out their car window.
- No one respects street signs! Perhaps if they did, the city would flow smoother at times.
- One time, a car parked behind our car making it unable for us to leave. The driver obviously couldn’t care less!
- The number of times I’ve seen drivers stop driving in the middle of the road regardless if there were people behind them, in order to write a text (it must be a mind-blowing booty call!)
These are just a few examples. The list could go on and on, but it would probably turn into a nasty rambling.
Generally speaking, Government should make it a priority to educate this city and make everyone more aware and respectful of their neighbors. Enough said.
What is your take on the issue?
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Hi. You’re absolutely right about it all, and as others have said, “la costa” is much, much worse. Yes, there are some nice cities like Medellin, Ibague, and Pereira with a lot of nice people, but they are small and you have to travel to Bog, Med, or Cali fir many services or merchandise.
Combians as a whole suffer some collective behaviors like total lack of trust and obliviousness. Too many do not care about anything or anyone. It is a “Me, me, me” society. Their not caring is what makes it virtually impossible for them to change… they don’t care to see it, much less recognize it, and even less to try to fix it. The “if no one else tries, why should I” mentality brings the slightest possibility of improvement to its knees. Yes, there are external reasons like corruption (in general), high criminality by way too many citizens, guerrillas, economy, “lazy” gov’t, but several generations of this mentality and behavior makes it very hard to show them why they are as such and have them understand and accept the possible changes. And there are sooo many things to change!! Comformism, THE biggest killer of betterment and progress get used by all, especially gov’t, to their advantage. Poor Simon Bolivar fought and sacrificed many of his friends and country(wo)men for this to be the end result.
To Wally, about them not taking responsibiliyy for their actions, however minkr or inconsequential they might be, a Colombian wrote a book entitled, “It’s the cow’s fault” (“La culpa es de la vaca”) That says it all.
This post speaks volumes. I saw a comment about Colombians refusing to take responsibility for themselves. This is absolutely true. The behaviour is abhorrent. Also, they only reason that they are “nice” to us face-to-face is that we’re foreigners, AND Colombians are terrified of any type of confrontation. Plus they are incredibly passive aggressive. When on the streets, witnessing or being subject to their disgusting behaviour, it’s a glimpse into how Colombians treat themselves.
perhaps if the people stopped reproducing with members of their own families, the progress would be more evident.
The average IQ in Colombia is 82, I’m sure with less incestuously produced members of the population, this low IQ could be increased
You are scarring me! I’ve lived in NYC, San Francisco, and Texas. I wanted to retire in Bogota or Medellin but you are all painting a nasty picture of Columbia as a whole. I may need to reconsider my destination
Hi Joe. I wouldn’t make a decision based on one opinion as there are many great things this country has to offer. The positive definitely outweigh the negative!
You are all painting a pretty ugly picture of Columbia as a whole. I lived in NYC, San Fran, and Texas. We have our crime and gangs which are very dangerous. You don’t flash jewelry or watches because they attract the bad element.
I wanted to retire in Medellin but if it as bad as you say,”living fear”, maybe I should consider somewhere else.
You should go to Barranquilla if you think Bogotanos are rude. You’ll come running back in about 2 seconds…
I have yet to go;)
Hi – based on my own ongoing experiences I have some theories on this that may help to explain but, of course, not excuse any of this. There is deep seated historical mistrust running through every level of society in Colombia, not just of other people but of authority, exemplified by 60 years of civil conflict in this country where even the tiniest bits of information or knowledge could lead to your own death or to the death of a loved one. Colombians often seen driven to air their disgust or refute these issues through their stubbornness and willingness to break even the tiniest of rules in some act of pseudo-rebellion or rudeness in the direction of anyone unknown to them. You should try la costa, seriously – if you think Bogotá is bad!
Thanks for the deep insights! Some serious food for thought
I hate this People so much, and i hate most they think that they are in the position to descriminate people
Well with your English…
Hahahahahahaha
I hate this People so much, and i hate most they think that they are in the position to descriminate people
People do many of these things in many cities, such as in NYC. It’s not just Bogota. In fact, some of my friends from NYC, who have been here, do not wait for the light to change to red, and just cross. I tell them not to do it, and they still do! I know that something must be done, BUT NOT ONLY IN BOGOTA!
I absolutely agree. But for some reason I seem to see a lot more people doing things they shouldn’t be doing here compared to other big cities.
You are doing exactly what Colombians do…..make multiple excuses for their rude/inconsiderate/selfish behavior. It’s their one common trait that I absolutely abhor…..no one takes responsibility for their behavior or for the lack of progress towards “civilization”….they excuse everything.
This couldn’t be more true. Excellent blog.
Thanks dear!
I think that you are all missing the point. I have lived in Bogota for 8 years and I have come to understand that Colmbian’s simply do not have the ability to think of anyone else beyond their immediate family. In most western countries we are taught to think of the ramifications of our action upon other people before we do something. Colombian’s do not have this ability for whatever reason. I am teaching my son better.
You are doing exactly what Colombians do…..make multiple excuses for their rude/inconsiderate/selfish behavior. It’s their one common trait that I absolutely abhor…..no one takes responsibility for their behavior or for the lack of progress towards “civilization”….they excuse everything.
bogota is NOT a nice city. it is a city full of opportunities, indeed yes. BUT it is as you say a concrete jungle. I am from bogota and in my life here I have just learned just one thing that has saved my life many times. That thing is “salvese quien pueda” or “every man for himself”. since day you born in colombia you knew you are just alone. Entire planet hates us. Our own government hates us. why we should be nice persons? AND yes. people of estratos 6 where you gringos live. are the most senseless of all. But they believe that they are europeans like.
I totally agree with this article, I have seen such blatant displays of ignorance at times when it comes to civic duty. Here in Pereira I have my days where I get so tired of waiting for people to finish telling their life’s story before they help the next customer, the lack of pride in one’s city. The whole bit. I’m an expat, and I can totally relate. You can’t say “oh, that’s any big city” either. I never felt like people were so intentionally “cochino” in San Francisco, KC, or many big cities that I have visited. It’s a cultural thing for sure, and Colombia definitely isn’t the only one. I hope when my son get’s bigger I can teach him the difference and help make the next generation just a little bit more mindful.
Hey, the truth can hurt. I lived in and worked in Colombia for 6 years. Jade’s analysis is one almost everyone foreigner I know has shared when living or visiting Colombia, including myself. Due to Colombian’s patriotic nature, they of course, will not enjoy reading these “insights”. Hence their first question being, “Do you love Colombia…How do you like Colombia?” They are very concerned about your “liking” there country because they are fundamentally “nice” people. But the question itself is inherently selfish….instead ask “How are you adjusting to the cultural differences here?” Because ACKNOWLEDGING that your culture is not perfect, is flawed, is the key to change. Not posting comments that attack Jade’s views. That’s not tolerance in any form. Jade-outstanding, disrupting article 🙂 Keep ’em coming. The world isn’t all flowers and rainbows afterall.
I am from colombia and I hate colombia soo much. well I don’t hate the land. In fact I really love this country. What I really hate is the people. NOT every colombian are “dumb uribistas nazionalistas”. some of us in fact have our own ideas of the world. but you gringos just know the “superficial” part of colombia.
You’re an asshole!
I love it… Don’t generalize us we’re not all xyz, by the way your are all xyz. Makes sense dude.
As a citizen of this city for over 28 years I have to sadly agree with you. I recently read an article where they explained the social behaviour (regarding traffic) in London and in an Asian country, having a big contrast. The key for traffic working in both places is the perception of what os right and what is wrong. For decades the government, the violence and the drug issues have taught Colombians to try and help themselves and go over anyone in order to achieve their goals… this of course is reflected in your article. What I’m trying to say is that the effort needed to change this, cannot be expected to come from the government since they don’t benefit (profit) of people well behaving, so the challenge is huge since we have to somehow find the way of changing ourselves. I don’t know if you have noticed, but when ou make eye contact with drivers/pedestrians (sadly motorcycles not included) everything tends to be easier, and I have also noticed the use of the thumb up sign, to ‘reward’ good behavior… we need to promote this and use social media to identify stupid/dumb/harmful behavior, hopefully with recorded or photographed examples (we Colombians feel really bad when put on the spotlight doing something wrong, we do think we are the bosses of everything most of the time). Anyways, I’m sad this is what you see, but it is also what many of us Bogotanos see and share everyday.
Spot on, thoughtful response. Makes total sense.
What??? This is kind of disrespectful to all of us who live here and try to make a better city. The fact that she has lived these issues doesnt mean all the citizen are like that, maybe she lives in a poorer neighboor and sometimes people with less opportunities behave like that, and another thing is: what kind of neighbors do you have? If the doorman asked you that why does he have reason to believe that you would to do that? Weird, ah? But all of this has a solution: go back to your perfect country!!!
Hi Angelica! I’m afraid to say (As I’m sure all expats will agree with me) your answer is so stereotypically Colombian. The “go back to your country” attitude is so old. I live in Estrato 4 but regardless I see perfect elderly Estrato 6 women in their Mercedes driving like animals. So this is the solution I propose: Bogotanos should open their eyes and everyone should do their part. It’s because of people like you who simply go on to accept shit as it is and don’t want to hear complaining that it doesn’t get better! It’s because people are complacent and don’t do anything about their situation that Bogota is like this!
Number 1: things like that does happen in Bogota but I think that Colombia is a very diverse Country so referring to us as “Colombians” is not only wrong, but wouldn’t give you a whole picture of how real bogotanos are. Since it is one of the most unequal countries in the world, the tendency is for people from all over the Country come to Bogota to look for a better way of living. Perhaps we should do as many countries that don’t allow citizens from other parts of the country to relocate in Bogota. Bogotanos are in fact very respectful people and we do take care of our city and we also hate all that behaviors. Sadly those behaviors come from people that don’t belong to this city and that couldn’t care less. That just come, work, make our city dirty and during the vacations go back to their original cities.
Mi Angelica, you need to get out of Colombia a bit…to the US, Canada, Europe….see how “civilized countries” behave….then you might understand and not be so defensive. *Every* Colombian friend I have tells me they don’t understand why I stay here – that they would leave if they could.
Angelica Potes,
Yours is the typical local response to something you didn’t like. However, if someone says that Colombians are wonderful people, you would not argue that not all are. It is not out of convenience that we choose generalizations to be 100% or not, and actually, they hardly ever are true for 100% of the people or situations, whether positive or negative. Sensibly spepeaking, Colombians are corrupt, thus the hovzt is corrupt. It is true that A LOT of people in A LOT of cities and towns with con or steal at the firat chance they get. Why else would they live by the sayings, El vivo vive del bobo, El vivo llega primero, or Marica el ultimo? Those are NOT honest sayings, and while not all say it or live by it, YOU KNOW that too many people do.
Conny Nichols Not that I disagree with you that bogotanos need to wake up to a reality check when it comes to their uncivilized behavioral patterns. But honestly, have you been to New York, or Rome, or Frankfurt lately? Between people urinating in the streets, throwing trash everywhere in parks and public fairways, or defecating in New York’s subways, or the insanely high levels of road rage in Los Angeles, Bogotá is no different than most mega metropolis of the world. Have perspective! You cannot just focus on one city, regardless of which one it is, and neglect all others that are either far worse than the one you’re judging, or are just as bad. All mega cities in the world have problems. Bogotá is not an exception.
I think it is really unfair to generalize your experience here in Colombia. There are really hardworking and nice people here. It is true that things don´t work perfect but it is not only here in Bogota it is everywhere in the world.
“Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand but you don´t”
No, you think you understand, but you don’t. Travel out of South America and you’ll begin to understand.
Totally agree with you. Some people here un Bogota hace told me that it’s because most people living in Bogota do not consider themselves Bogotanos and that they lack any sense of ownership for the city. I don’t think of it as a justification but it can be true. Although you can see that behaviour all around Colombia.
Totally agree!!! And overall, I think the worst thing is the way bus drivers do their job. They think they are taking cows with them or sth… but be careful! When you tell them about the lack of civil education they even get agressive and react like this: “if U don’t like it, feel free to go”. :S
Agreed! But it’s not limited to Bogotá. I find certain aspects of these behaviors even worse and more annoying in Medellín. Medellín natives seems to love telling visitors (and themselves) how friendly they are; but when they’re not face-to-face with someone, their behavior is even more aggressive and entitled.
medellin people thought that they are direct descendants of nordic races (aryos) and the rest of colombians are just sudacas apes. they hate bogotanos really bad. and talk “pestes” of us ” a nuestras espaldas”…
I moved here in July of ’15 from NY and thought it might be a bit more organized here. I was so wrong. I agree with you on so many levels. How about the moto’s that drive ON the sidewalk? It boils my blood like no other because they think they have the right of way on there, too and go way too fast which could be fatal for a pedestrian.
I’ve kind of given up on transmi and luckily my work is 20 min by SITP and that particular bus is usually fairly empty. The bus drivers drive like mad men though and almost always stop extremely short and all the poor old ladies go tumbling.
There have been times I’ve received raw or the wrong food and the waiters just look at me like it’s my problem and there is nothing they could possibly do to help. Customer service is a different ball game than the states – practically non existent. Even in expensive places!
Anyway, enough rants. Luckily places like Villa de Leyva and short trips to smaller towns make up for it because of their beauty and charm. Cheers!
I quite agree with you. It’s all about the individual and to hell with everyone else. Some years back we had a very good Mayor of Bogota, Antanas Mockus who did, in fact, promote civil education and his campaign worked well. Twelve or so years on and after Garzon, Moreno and Petro all that has gone out the window. I find it harder and harder on a daily basis to live here. One thing I would like to add to your list is the total and absolute lack of civil education, driving skills and common sense of the motorcyclists in this city. It seems to me that they can break all the rules, cause accidents, do the most stupid of manoevres and get away with it all. I have a 15km car journey to work and a 15km journey home and I spend that time stressed out incase I have an accident caused by a motorcyclist for which I will be blamed, my car will be pounded, and I could even go to prison.
please dont make propaganda política of our internal affairs. we dont meddle into foreign affairs of your super “civilized” developed first world countries.