Colombian men and women are known for their good looks worldwide. However, good looks aren’t the only thing Colombian men are known for. Dating a Colombian man comes with its challenges to say the least.
It’s intense. You will love and laugh harder than ever before, but you might also feel other emotions exponentially: jealousy, rage and maybe even obsession.
I decided to reach out to a few women who share their experiences of meeting and dating a Colombian man.
Unfortunately, all of them but one asked to remain anonymous. They are women in their 20s and 30s who come from all different continents. Let’s see if you can spot a particular trend amongst the beautiful Colombian men of this country.
Below are the testimonials of real woman who share the particularities of dating a Colombian man.
Colombian men and dancing
“You’ll finally be aware of just how bad people dance in your country and how wonderfully lucky you are to have your dancing man.” -Anonymous
“Your experience going out with a Colombian man differs based on the region which he is from. For example, men from central Colombian are more open and it’s not as common for them to date different women at the same time. Nonetheless, they’re not as good dancers.”
-Lina from Patoneando.com
Dating a Colombian man
“Colombian men tend to invite you to everything when you go out on a date and they’re always making sure you’re having a good time. What I can’t stand is that the majority of them are very machistas and often times date several women at once”
-Lina from Patoneando.com
“I’ve found that Colombian guys are all about the big, empty promises. For example: “I would love to take you to Villa de Leyva” and “then when you meet my best friends…” or “I’m going to cook you this amazing meal at my finca,” which they all tend to say really early on into dating, at a time when you wouldn’t normally plan to do such serious things. And of course, they never follow through. I have no idea why they feel they need to promise all those things early on. Perhaps it’s all part of the sell? Either way, it’s annoying as fuck. When I say I am going to do something, or introduce you to someone, or say “I love you”, I say it at the appropriate time and I follow through on my promises. It’s as simple and as complicated as that.” -Anonymous
“A Colombian man requires a lot of attention. I find them very attached, demanding, and they want to be with you every second!” -Anonymous
Colombian men and sexual encounters
“I am shocked at the lack of and comfort talking about sexual health and protection. I’ve been with a couple of very well educated, sophisticated guys who tried to have sex with me the first time without a condom (and they didn’t ask if I was on birth control, either)!!! It freaked me out because I was like “Whoa, I thought you were a smart guy, this is some pretty basic stuff?!” It seems as though it is still taboo to talk about STDs and birth control, which is appalling. It’s a matter of public health!” -Anonymous
Colombian men and family
“A Colombian man bases his notion of what a woman should be like after his female family members. They expect women to be very feminine. Earrings are a MUST; if you don’t wear them, you are not a woman. The longer your hair, the most attractive you are.” -Anonymous
“Colombian men are very attached to their land and family. Most of the foreign girls I’ve met who live in Bogota have moved because of their partners. Although Colombians travel abroad, they eventually feel the need to come back to their homeland and be close to their family.” -Anonymous
“Personal space and privacy can be inexistent in many Colombian families. Information and intimate details of one’s personal life will travel across the entire family at the speed of lightning. This isn’t always so pleasant, as everyone feels entitled to their 2 cents about your relationship decisions.” -Anonymous
Colombian men and love
“Colombian men NEED women, and even if they may have many women in their lives, there is always JUST one who they will love forever.”-Anonymous
“A Colombian man loves to be pampered, and loves to be right.”-Anonymous
“Colombian men seem to be generally quite sensitive so this can be something that brings some extra drama (or romance) to relationships. Also, pick a good one as loads seem to be either unfaithful or machista, or both.” -Anonymous
“A Colombian man will treat his woman with gentleness, warmth and love. He will always look out for this woman and go out of his way to make her happy.” -Anonymous
“Colombians love European women, but they have hard time accepting cultural differences.”-Anonymous
“Conflict is a fundamental part of a relationship.”
-Anonymous
Having a hard time yourself? You’re not alone girlfriend! Drop me a message in the comment box down below if there’s a confession you’d like to add to the list!
79 comments
I am a guy. My ex gf is Colombian and I’ve spent some time there.. There is no such thing as a faithful Colombian man or woman. It’s expected and tolerated that they have a side chick (mosa). Think that you and his mother have a good relationship and she would say something right?!? Wrong.. She will have her son and his other girlfriend over and she will even cook for the both of them as you’re at home by yourself or worse with his child.. I’ve seen it happen. The women often have multiple bfs at a time.. this one for love, the other for money, the other because he takes me places. Just as an fyi.. Colombian women are not shy about approaching men and prostitution is legal.
I Was dating a Colombian man for a year, things were fine or so I thought. I didn’t hear from him for 2 days and when I questioned him and said I was worried he said “don’t worry.” Another 2 days goes by and I again ask him what’s going on. He basically breaks up with me with 2 bogus reasons about being frustrated with language barrier and our relationship not progressing. This is so frustrating, upsetting and confusing for me as it’s the complete opposite of what he had been saying and doing the past year together. Any issues he would always say “we will solve it together.” I periodically asked how he was feeling about the language barrier/cultural differences and he said all was fine. I was purposely following his lead as far as the relationship progressing – at no time did he initiate discussions about moving in together or any other progression. (He understood about 50-70% English, I was slowly learning Spanish). I asked to talk, but no response from him. Later I asked for some closure so I could begin to move on. He read the message but has not responded. I am just so confused. Did not expect this behavior from him.
I am not dating a Colombian guy but I have met one and I am crushing on him hard. I told him that I really liked him and he told me that he was not looking for a relationship right now. But it’s also confusing because he is very flirty: gives out flowers to me, invites me over to his place to have drinks and talk or watch a movie, he’ll tease me by tickling me or mess with my hair. He’ll come over to my place and we will drink and dance together! He has kissed me twice but says it won’t happen again. He loves to travel and loves to work in National parks. I somehow dont believe that he doesn’t not like me. I feel like he does like me but then keeps saying he just wants to be friends. I have been having feelings for this man but he is extremely confusing! I need advice or help with this.
Hey Lydia ,
Nice to hear about your story. I would definitely say take ur time and try again with him if you really feel love for him..by the way where did you meet this Guy.
Hey Lidya,
Thank you for sharing your story. I would suggest you to take your time, I would like to know wher you met this Guy
Hi Lydia nice to hear about your history
Where did you meet this guy
Nope, nope. Hes not confusing. He just wsnt sex and hes making clear that i dint want any commitment. He has you right where he needs you to be. He doesnt want to be available to you in that sense, dont make yourself available to him that way. You are to open.
I’ve been dating a colombian man for 2 years now. And he’s the most sweetest loving person I’ve ever met. And I’m Caucasian with blonde hair blue eyes and pale skin and he’s attracted to that. His family adores me and his mom is colombian and she’s from colombia and she married to a Caucasian guy after her first marriage. I have to say colombian men are very protective and very affectionate. He always calls to make sure I get home safe and worries about me being out at night. I couldn’t have asked for a better man and we have the same birthday never knew I could meet someone from a different culture that has the same birthday as me and his culture is very nice he was taught how to treat woman with respect like he does to me. I cook,clean and take care of him and he helps as well this is my first time dating a spanish guy and I’m blown away on how well they treat their women.
Hello everyone, as a heterosexual Colombian man, I must say that I see with sadness the bad reputation we have. Like anywhere in the world there are bad men, but there are also good men. I want to say four things. 1) The Colombian man is hardworking, very strong and protective of his family, he is very competent and confident in his abilities, they are very clean, they like to use perfumes and be well dressed for women, as well as good dancers and lovers. They love their wives and their children. 2) The majority of women who date foreigners discredit Colombian men as a justification for now trying a relationship with a foreigner. 3) In Colombia, infidelity between men and women is almost equally shared, 45%-55%, men are slightly more unfaithful. The question is, where do the women with whom men are unfaithful come from? But I must say that not all men and women are unfaithful, that depends on each person, I know many examples of men who are faithful and dedicated to their families. 4) Colombian men genuinely like foreign women, we love sharing our culture and learning about other cultures and different ways of life. We learn and grow. We like interculturality and appreciate beauty in different ways. Women, don’t be fooled, first get to know Colombian men, believe me why there are so many Colombian women in love with us.
Hello, thank you for providing some clarity on dating a Colombian man. I am sort of dating one, casual I guess. We have been seeing each other for 9 months. He almost never follows through in plans, and often blows me off and then comes back with “I am sorry” and excuses of why. I also am helping him with his start-up business, like a lot of hours. I don’t want money or equity, just doing it because I really like him. I should mention that I am 15 years older than him. Which he says he loves, because I am mature and accomplished etc.. We had a conversation a few months ago about the word love and what it means to him. He said that in Colombia there are two words for love that mean very different things (I don’t remember the names). One means I am romantically in love with you and the other is I care about you. After this conversation he asked me if I loved hm and after some thought I said yes. And I meant it. I explained the reasons I feel this way and he agreed he felt much of the same and then blurted out “Ok! Yes, I do love you.” We also talked about how he was not wanting to get into a committed relationship as he was coming off an intense (T
TOXIC and Co-dependent one), which I get and is smart. I did not ever ask to be girlfriend and boyfriend.
Now, since then he has said I love you to me, sometimes when he has been drinking, maybe 3 or 4 times. Tonight we were talking and he apparently caught covid from his roommate who used to be his girlfriend (yeah, I know. They may not be “together” but I am 100% sure they are sleeping together given he has not moved out yet) and has been feeling bad. Side note: He is looking for a place to move out the end of this month. I asked him to please let me know when he is not feeling well and not go radio silent on me for 3 days. He apologized, with some lame excuse of the girlfriend complicate situation..blah blah blah. He then said ” I love you” 3 times during the conversation and I said “I love you too.” At the end of the call, I said “feel better and I love you”. He then back peddled and said “it is not real love, which felt like a knife in my gut, and then told me the same story of the two words that have different meaning and he means he cares a lot for me. WTAF do I do with that? I have no idea what the hell he feels, and frankly I am pretty sure he does not either. But HELP! Any thoughts? My gut, and I usually am spot on, is that he does he is just afraid to say because he thinks I am going to want to be exclusive, which we are not and I am not either. I have other men I see.
I forgot to mention. He told his entire family about me one day when he was at my house for the weekend. His mother, father and both brother and sister. Told them how amazing I am, beautiful, supportive, kind, loving etc.. Now that blew me away. I am thinking that is a BIG deal for a Colombian man to tell his entire family about me while I was sitting there.
Dated an early to mid 40s Colombian man who had a great work background. His demeanor and confidence caught my eye first. It was all charming and lots of besos. We were 13 hours apart so yes, it was long distance all the while with video calls, phone calls, texts, and voice notes. Language-wise, we knew we were worlds apart with me speaking English and basic Spanish (I am from a very small country in Southeast Asia) and him the opposite. However, it worked, thanks to a translator. But all the charms and muchos besos para ti suddenly disappear. He only responds when he is free or convenient for him. I still miss him, but one thing is for sure, I agree with an earlier comment that Colombian man thinks he is always right and they will never apologise even if they contribute to the problem.
My close friend used be in a relationship with a guy from Colombia. Everything seemed to be perfect. Although it was a long distance relationship, everything was working out nicely. She came to see him twice. She was h as over heels on love with him. He proposed to her and they were supposed to get married. All of a sudden, the pandemic took its toll on the entire communication and they were both disillusioned. However, when things were gradually coming back on track and she started wondering when they would see each other again, he used to come up with a lame excuse – “Oh, the tickets are expensive, or, the hotel is not cheap”. She has been suffering for quite a long time, hoping he would change his attitude. Unfortunately it never happened. Finally, she texted him while being very close to him geographically and asked him whether he would opt for coming to see her. Guess what he said ?
Came up with a lame excuse about the high cost of the tickets. I am convinced he had stared dating someone else and for some reason did not want to break the news to my friend. As for me, it seems to be ridiculous – why one has to keep manipulating other person’s feeling instead of just telling the truth? And all the messages were accompanied with these sweet confessions – ” Baby, I love you do much I wish we coul see each other again, blah, blah, blah”
So the bottom line is that my friend took a plunge and broke up with him telling him that she had enough and would hate to spend her life for something that was never going to happen. She is feeling so much better now.
In my opinion, some Colombian guys are used to tell lies and they do not consider it as something bad, this is just the way they are. So, the only way to communicate with them is to forget about any possible promises, enjoy life and keep one’s head cool. But never ever fall into this kind of trap – never let your rational mind be washed away by your emotions. First look at the actions, then listen to what it said. Wishing all the women love and harmony.
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Lina Assad
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Hi,
Thank you for writing this article on Colombian men. I find it very interesting. I am from the UK. I live and work in the US. I work as a Lawyer. I met a Colombian on social media we started talking about 6 months ago. He disappeared for a bit then came back telling me he did not know why we stopped speaking. .he asked to see more pictures of me and did not want me speaking to other men.or put my pictures out there. Then he said to me do you understand I asked why was he being this way he said he get jealous. He tells me he is crazy about me and he wants to be with me. I am 8 years older than him by 8 years but I do look younger. I told I am too old, he said age does not matter and I look younger and I am beautiful. But I travel for work all over the world. I am a diplomat so I am very busy so sometimes I do not have time to speak with him. He gets annoyed with me.one time I told him to go find other girls to talk to and if he did not find anyone he could come back he told me he was not going anywhere. I went home for my birthday. My sister spoke to him and he told my sister that I must have someone else because I am sending him away. My sister told him no I am single he also told my sister to tell me he is crazy about me he always tells me this. I am being cautious when coming to matters of the heart. I do like him a lot. He is handsome and he knocks me off my feet when I am speaking to someone else from the UK. We are going to meet sometime. He told me he is close to his mother and I am very independent. He said he has not met someone as intelligent and smart and beautiful at the same time. I speak 12 languages to impress me. He wrote to me in Arabic because I am half Middle Eastern and half Scottish. I was impressed by his words telling me I have awakened all the feelings that no other woman made me feel. I was also impressed that he was communicating to me in arabic. For the time being I am enjoying the attention he says he is sincere but only time would tell he is from Bogota and Engineer. He can leave his mother. I told I can not live in Colombia . I have to travel for work and I would be moving to London for work if things work out with us fine if it does not it also ok
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Best Regards,
Emma .
I am dating a Columbian man through social media . I fell in love with him right away . I’m new to the dating scene . I get overwhelmed with new sexual requests that I’m not comfortable with . Then I was told he doesn’t want to around uptight people . Then he said he said yes he loved me . I’m so confused?
Help. Yes a columbian guy younger than me.. Demanding overtly sexual and prob related to a drugs barron. I’m serious. His family are shaman actually so yeah and sometimes calls me mum mama . Dances around the room thinks he can play guitar when he can’t.. Lazy .. Annoying child the cat likes him that’s it… His a genius in South American studies . I think columbian men are very strong heavy bones just strong… Hairy and crazy. He spks spanish which is nice ladies… And has doe like brown eyes. I thi k the only thing they have in common is that they are well built hairy and very sexy.. That’s it…
What a comment ! General Latinos are not hairy but they do come in all shapes and sizes after all
I’m in a relationship with a Colombian guy, we are in a long distance relationship now. It’s true that they asked for your time like every minute . He’s a loving man, caring and responsible. He wants me to live with him but I cant decide because we’ve been dating for 9 months . I want to know more about him. Any tips and suggestions?
I wish I had a better ending story and if only I would have listened to my initial intense gut feeling. I was not inexperienced with men, I had had several long term relationships, one for more than 5 years, all of them pretty positive experiences. The more stupid I feel now, falling into this “love” trap. The emotional abuse that started after the hot and sweet romance finished with my colombian lover, who seemed so reasonable and caring..i would not wish to anybody. He is controlling, manipulative, unrespectful, uncompassionable, intimidating- I am frankly traumatised by all of it. I thought he was the love of my life..:D How naive. That nasty behavour started when I fell pregnant with him, he is so insecure in his mind, maybe scared I might leave him? That he is threatening me to take our kid from me in case we separate. What could be worse to hear for a mother? I feel embarrassed that I have put my dearest fortune in the middle of that mess. It is a long and complicated story, but I just wanted to warn others- if you want a normal relationship and a family life please live with them a while before committing to anything more serious and use double protection because they are highly fertile. Take care
Wow You are soooo beatifull. A colombian guy lol
I had a horrible experience…in the beginning the guy from Colombia seemed so sweet and romantic. Others warned me but I did not listen. Six months of him pursuing me (writing me long love letters, sending me kisses, long phone calls, telling me we are ‘in a relation’ asking me to send him photos, pushing me to reply to him to call him, telling me im the only girl he speaks to) I ask him to clarify how he sees me. Because he has just written me a long beautiful love letter and I assume the best. He admits to me that he has seen me just as a friend for the past few weeks. I ask when he was planning on telling me this..I go crazy wondering when exactly he decided this. And why. Was I not pretty enough. Did he meet someone. Is he bored. Annoyed. Then I realise…if someone can fake these things there is only one explanation. They are a pig. And I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a pig. Moved on pretty quickly after that.
This is article is very insightful. Anyway I’m seeing a Colombian Expat who’s 3 years younger than me. We’ve been seeing each other for nearly 2 weeks now. We hooked up during our first meeting but he didn’t really like what happened. We met up few days after and went on a trip and talked about it. He was asking why I did it and tells me that we should just forget about it. At the end of that trip, he opened up about his family, how close he is to his mom and about his ex and I also did the same. I felt that it was genuine and we’re leaning towards into something. He tells me that he likes being taken care of and likes it when I’m sweet to him. We always end our meeting with a kiss before he goes out of may car.
Now, here’s my dilemma. On our 3rd date he’s sharing that he needs to look for a place to live, I offered help and talked to him about the listings I saw and told him we can probably get coffee and discuss more further. He tell’s me that “you’re so cute”. I responded that “I’m not really used to receiving compliments but thank you”. He then told me that “Just don’t fall in love with me”. So now that I got that message, I’m wondering if should pursue whatever is going on between us or just stop seeing him.
Also, I just noticed that this guy doesn’t shell out whenever we go out together. I mean, I understand that he’s on a tight budget as work is not yet starting, but is it usual for a Colombian Guy not to split the bill? Or is he just using me convenience? Or does he enjoy my company? I’m also thinking that if this is not leading into something why end the bight with a kiss if he just wants us to be friends. Please note that he’s only been here for 3 weeks.
My experience is so far removed from all of these others. I married my Colombian boyfriend. We have been married for nearly 6 months. He is thoughtful and kind and really looks after me . Is our relationship perfect? Hell no but I know he loves me to bits and I love him to bits. There are good and bad guys out there no matter where they are from.
Have been dating a Colombian for about a year now. It is true that they love foreigners, him & My Paisa friends even tells me “everyone will be shocked to meet you.” I really don’t know how much he loves me for me or if it’s because I’m a blond gringa who he will be so proud to show off. Yes he’s extremely charming, handsome & adamant to be with me…the list goes on and on. I find myself falling into the trap of thinking of “forever” because that’s how he is with me. But I must say he’s much more involved and proud of his culture than he is with mine. He is pretty self absorbed and after much time, I really don’t believe I’m his only. Like all men, he’s crazy about women, but I think he’s more crazy about women than the average American guy. I’ll continue to enjoy my time with him, but definitely not for forever. ALSO, I have met a Colombian guy who recently moved here to the states. He is always flirting on me while simultaneously & unashamedly posting photos of him and his gf on WA. Due to how often I hear about this behavior, I would never actually take a relationship with a Colombian seriously. I don’t care how ignorant that sounds, statistics exist for a reason.
Im going to try my best to make it short but the first person to warn me was my nail lady who was once married to a Colombian man she told he was handsome, charismatic, persuasive, crazy, controlling, and “Nasty” meaning he will put his dick or mouth on anything he found attractive regardless the circumstances. My Colombian boyfriend of the short period of two months showed me all of these things. He even went as far as hacking my instagram and posting revenge porn on my account to the point I lost my instagram. All because I told him that I was gonna expose him and let everyone know he was a fraud about lying to me about having a job leaving every morning as if he was going to work. My property manager even told me during the day that he saw me entering the building and left out our apt lobby and hid in the lobby bathroom until I reached our apt.I watched him lie to people many times and get away with it because he was so charismatic and well spoken (that’s probably how I ended up with him). The love making was great he was definitely a pleaser but looking back on it I don’t think it was genuine I believe the love making was to try and manipulate my mind to not see the obvious lies he told me daily. This isn’t even half of the distress I went through. In conclusion if you think it’s too good to be true, it definitely is.
Wow! That is a crazy story. Thanks for sharing
I meet a Colombian guy at my friend’s party he asked her to present me to him and i went over yo say hi and we talked for 2 month and know his telling me nice things but he has a wife and child back in Colombia…And am not sure if he really likes me or just whats someone to warm his bed. But ever time i see him he holds my hand,kisses mi in my mouth and hugs me hard!!! What does this mean am sooo confuse i really like him but what about his wife and child??
Sounds like a douchebag. If he does it to her, chances are he ll do it to you! Not to mention, your involvement knowing this reflects poorly on you.
I’m seeing a Colombian guy who’s married. It’s been nearly two yrs. We chat daily, but only see each other a couple times a year. I know I will never have him full time. But it is what it is
I have been seeing a Colombian guy for nearly 2yrs this year.
The issue is, he’s married. Tricky Yes, when I found out he was married I refused to engage with him. He pursued me for months which I took the bait.
I know I’ll never have him fully but it is what it is.
??? every honest person’s worst nightmare.
I met a COLUMBIA Man 4 months ago, he was passing by my Apartment, I and my Son was sitting on my back porch and he said SOMETHING and I COULDN’T hear him so I ask him to come Closer and he did, he said his name, ask me my name I told him, then he asked my Son what was his name, he told him and the conversation started, he said he was COMING from work and was very thirsty, so my Son went to get him a bottle of water, he kept a smile on his face, said Thank YOU for, he told me he was from COLOMBIA, we exchanged phone # , to me he change my life forever, pleased me in all ways, I Visited his TRAILER, he had to GO back to COLUMBIA, my Heart is broken, he say he will be back. My QUESTION is”” Will he Return “” ??I told him I will SPONSOR him, yes I will marry him once I turn 66yrs old. But I have a “”Condition “” to him he Didn’t care that I have a condition, he say he just wants to be ABLE to live here for ever. I feel he will Leave me once he becomes LEGAL.
I am having a close friendship with a Colombian guy at the moment, we have been ambiguity for more than a month. We text everyday, go out once every week. He always really take care of me when we go out, but sometimes i don’t know if Colombian guy always so caring with their friends or he might like me? I’m not from Colombia , I don’t really know much of the guys mostly like. I like him but just don’t know if I think too much, just their country’s people are caring.
My take on relationships worldwide: if you ‘re not sure that he likes you, than he probably doesn’t. Whether Colombian or not, men give off clear signs when they’re into you.
I do not know how to feel about this article. Its generalizing Colombian men to just a sexual experience, which I do not agree with. If someone is having multiple sexual partners, than he is not that into you. It means that the person they are with isn’t full filling them in all the categories that make them feel they need from a partner. Some Colombians generally flirticous and family orientated, and have great masculine traits. I wouldn’t think that you can generalize a WHOLE country full of men into a stereotype. My family has great Colombian men, educated ones with businesses, others that worked for NASA, producers in the film industry, and busssiness oriented and artistic men. DONT generalize a country, because of your negative experience.
This article was a recollection of quotes from over a dozen women. It is not to be taken seriously but simply to I collect thoughts from foreign and local women regarding Colombian men. Again not to be taken seriously…
I met this Colombian guy a year ago and we spent time together with nothing romantic, being just friends. He was really nice and I admit i did like him. We did not meet each other (only texting) until few weeks ago we went on a trip. Two weeks before I just broke up with my ex boyfriend I didn’t expect anything extra romantic on this trip but we somehow did get closer. He kissed me and held my hands and it was just great. I thought we were heading to a certain sort of relationship however after the trip I felt he was not showing much interest via text messages and I really have no idea what is going on. Why the sudden neutral reply with only a single answer to a question? I felt rather stupid trying to be close to him. He doesn’t seem like a machista but who knows. Is he like other Colombians?
Everybody is different. I don’t think this behaviour is particularly a Colombian. But it’s hard to know what happened without the full details.
When I was 18 I studied abroad in the uk for one month. There one night in a club I saw the most beautiful guy I ever seen, a Colombian! We danced all night, of course he is an amazing dancer, and exchanged numbers. After that night he went on a trip abroad for a couple of days and texted me every time he had wifi. He came back from the trip and we spend a lot of time together, sleeping overs, parties, even a one day trip. We had an amazing time, but also we fought a lot! After 2 weeks we both had to go back home to our countries, I cried my eyes out when I left and for the following month, I was a crazy little girl super in love! We kept in touch for 4 past years and this summer I’m finally going to visit him. He already planned every single day of my staying: Villa de Leyva, Bogota, costeno beach, Tayrona park etc.
Am I crazy for going there? Why would a guy keep in contact for all these years with someone who lives 9000 km away ?
Manuela! Enjoy your trip and have fun experiencing this amazing adventure!
What did happen on your trip and in your relationship?
I’m dating a Colombian man – he’s been in and out of my life for 30 years and he always turns my life completely upside down. He’s the most exasperating, unreliable, crazy, complicated, creative, and handsome person I’ve ever met, but no one touches my heart and soul like he does. Thank god for Colombians!
Just the way Colombians should be!
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I love this article!! I started to talk a Colombian boy since 2 months and he wanna move to Europe to live w me but first he wanna introduces me to his family , i’m skeptical to go by myself to Colombia to a boy who I never met before … and I have a bad feelings always when we talking maybe he just a liar ? He is from Medellin , is anyone heard about scammers from Colombia for girls from foreign country to get them money or idk ???
Anyone please I’m so confused
Hey, I met a Colombian guy from Madellin too on my trip to Cancun. I must say they are very sweet, family type.
Hope you and him can sort the things out. So far I have never heard of any scam but I know in Madellin they love foreigners!
Men from Medellin can sell oil to the Arabs, looks at Maluma, J Balvin, Juanes, they are so handsome and full of crap.
I am dating a Columbian man. We have been dating for 11 months. Now he wants me to move in with him. The only problem we have is he is allergic to cat. I told him that I am not giving up Hercules as he kept me from being killed. He refuses to take shots for his allergy. I told him Herc is staying. What do I do and keep us safe and together.
Sorry to read this but cats > boyfriend ?
Hahahaha also dogs > boyfriend.
I’ve been dating a Colombian man for eight weeks and the only problem I have with him is that he doesn’t answer my phone calls or messages unless it’s convenient for him. If he wants me he’s on the phone immediately to call me but when I call him he doesn’t always answer. He’s always busy or tired. Is this common for them to call on you only when they feel like it ?
That sounds like a personality thing. I only answer when I feel like it?
I wholeheartedly agree with the sensitive side of Colombian men. My guy has lived in American for seven years now, and asked me (after only a few dates) to skype with his parents while he translated. He put on slow, romantic music and translated love songs to English for me. He asked me to accompany him to salsa class on Monday nights here in Michigan. His mother calls him several times a day – once while we were on a date, to remind him not to engage in any sexual acts with me before marriage. It was adorable and hilarious!
Hilarious but a bit much, don’t you think?
Hay girls you need to know that you never meet a man alone , there are always two : of them
him and his Penis’, so dont castrate his masculinity, the Penis’s ability to override the higher thought processes
,despite the 100 million nerve cells that make up the brain’s neuronal highway.. is there for a good reason (reproduction)
women are so ignorant, to what men are all about …they are men ,not women so stop trying to kill their masculinity….and embrace them for the wonderful pleasures they give us as women, unconditionally. as lovers or husbands…
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wowwwwww? Are we supporting machismo now?
[…] A few months ago, I collected several confessions from both local and foreign women about what they thought about the suave latino men of Colombia. […]
I’m from Russia, my boyfriend and his family are from Colombia. We all moved to the US years ago and his family hates me for my culture… they yell and scream at him for dating me and he doesn’t have the balls to tell them to respect his choice. He just lets them talk crap and belittle me because he said it doesn’t make him love me any less… but now they basically control him and he barely sees me in fear of making them angry, they’re so controlling 🙁
That sounds pretty toxic. I’m sorry to hear ?
I can’t like this article enough. Unfortunately Colombian men in the gay scene are exactly like this, although their relationships with their families might be a little more complicated. Colombian men (gay or straight) are all about selling you on the “we’re hot-blooded and dance better than those gringos”. What another commenter said is so true: “hot-blooded” is just a code word for acting like an entitled brat/man-child. They need to be pampered by you every moment of the day, and being “passionate” just means wanting sex constantly, screaming, fighting and throwing things all night long. Be careful dating someone from a culture that bases relationships off of cheap ubiquitous soap operas. All drama, no substance.
Colombian men: great for a short-term fling. They ARE generally fit and know what they’re doing in bed. But if you want stability, minimal drama, a RESPONSIBLE man, then stick with an American, Canadian, or European. If someone asks me about Colombian men, I just say “Been there, done that”.
And full disclosure. I lived in Colombia for 3 years. And my conclusions are not just based on my own experiences but those of my straight female friends, both Colombian and foreign.
I liked a Colombian man once… but he was horrible. It was silly because we hadn’t had a chance to meet, I’m from Northern Europe, he lives in his country. But we used to text a lot and that. And then I slowly understood that even though he seems to like me (he said it), he’s always having sex with other guys from Grindr etc… He was just really horrible! My advice: don’t fall for Colombian gay guys
So sorry that happened to you!
Absolutely agree. They are great lovers, know how to please a woman, they are also manipulative in a way from what I have observed, so the best way to behave with them is just to enjoy every single moment and fly back home. But no strings attached. Or someone will end up being heart broken.
Jade, this was a really good read. I wish it were longer. Having lived in Medellin, Colombia for just about 7 years now (I’m from California; however, my family is all Colombian) I’ve always been curious about how foreign women get along with Colombian guys. I wrote about my own dating experience, http://medellinbuzz.com/dating-medellin-women/, but obviously, my view is onesided.
I have a few gringa friends here, that have been living in Colombia for more than a couple years, and have learned that Colombian men are actually really good boyfriends. I mean there are a lot of stereotypes about guys here being very promiscuous and unfaithful. Regardless, through my friends’ experiences, they have proven that stereotype to be false.
Nevertheless, everyone has their own expectations and their own realities. Personally, I think it best to keep an open mind and a positive attitude.
But there solo handsome how do u resist there charm
oh, I feel you!
I was born in California however, I lived in Bogota for a year my junior year of highschool with aunts and uncles since my parents are Colombian. I was extremely appalled when I met up with my ex Colombian boyfriend 6 years later less than a week ago. He would not shut up about how he did not like how short my hair was and how disgusted he was with my belly button piercing and my two small tattoos I have under my boob (similar to Riri’s). We went out dancing and I was always told I was a pretty decent dancer at family parties. But midway through the first song we were dancing he told me that I was a terrible dancer and looked for someone else to dance with. I have never felt so down on myself than with him and I was extremely confused because he would also hold my hand and kiss me. I felt extremely turned off by his negativity. Not saying all Colombian men are like this but I just want to understand why he treated me this way and if there is a cultural wall that I do not understand
I’m sorry to hear that! Sounds like you both had different expectations. Maybe he was more traditional?
But apart from that, Being negative is not a cultural difference. Not all Colombians are like this 🙂
I just met a Columbian man a few months ago.. Hes an entertainer and travels usually within driving distance every weekend. He invites me out to his shows a lot and we have hung out quite a few times after. He tells me we should build a friendship and go off that.. He tells me all the time how comfortable he is with me and how he feels he can talk to me about anything. Hes not shy thats for sure haha! When we are out he makes it seem like we are a couple. Does cute things ive never had to pay for anything etc.. but what I also noticed the few times we went out dancing is that hes also very touchy with other females. Makes me feel so stupid because here i am getting feelings for this man and I dont know if he is just playing with my emotions, or if he is really interested. Pleade help me with this.
Thanks for sharing your story! This could also be a cultural difference. Latinos are generally more touchy. Not just with women. This might just be the way he’s used to interacting! See how he interacts with other guys and if you still have doubts, talk to him about it 🙂
[…] Oh, men. We can’t live with them and we can’t live without them. Especially Colombian men. Over the past few years, I have had the pleasure of meeting many multicultural couples where the boyfriend was Colombian and the girlfriend either European or American. Read these women’s confessions of dating a Colombian guy here. […]
I have lived in Colombia for over a year and I am the United States. As for Jose attempt to generalize about not being able to find a “real man” in America( by the way those that live in North, Central ,and South America are all Americans) , I assure you he has spent little to no time in the United States. Being hot blooded is code for acting like a child. I have spent a lot of time with Colombian men and while I don’t agree with all the comments a lot of what was said rings true. I am married to a Colombian woman and you should hear her thoughts on Colombian men. It’s not very favourable. Some of them assume I can’t speak Spanish. One made a very vulgar comment which lead to my beating the shit out of him in the bar and dragging his ass out into the street and leaving him there. As for his hot blooded friends, they did not raise a hand to help him. A lack of passion for friendship perhaps?
These “traits” were common in men all over the world up until the “Women’s Lib” movements of the 50’s-60’s. Now men in the USA are completely feminized and of course women have found a way to complain about that. Yes ladies, just like women in America yell and complain about being unable to find a “real man”, well, you ladies are the ones who caused this. Well not all ladies, but the ladies of the past. Enjoy it. I agree, there are no real men anymore. On the same note, real women don’t exist either.
Veronica, I find it hilarious that you try to “teach these men”. Are they your dogs and need training? Hilarious. Try searching for a man in America. You won’t find one, but you will find plenty of males that would be willing to put up with your teaching and training.
I am not Colombian but from this article I see nothing wrong with Colombian mens behavior. Seems like pretty normal attitudes in Latin and Asian countries. Remember that with true passion and intense romance also come true and intense jealousy and love. Latino men.. well.. we’re very passionate and hot blooded. You can’t have one without the other and I’m sorry, but you can’t “teach” someone to be passionate or romantic. It’s either in your, or not. As for dancing, yes, Colombian men AND women are amazing dancers.
LMAO, sure buddy. you might not be colombian, but you latino dudes all have the special snowflake syndrome, conveniently created by your moms…regretfully it runs in the family and culture. what a load of crap…but i guess dealing with one’s own integrity and responsibility is challenging when someone tells calls you mi rey, mi principe, amor de mi vida ever since their special little unicorn was born.
truth be told, unless you particularly enjoy jealousy, drama and manipulations (in which case you might consider visiting a therapist because you’ve fallen into the pattern of liking pathology in your relationships) do yourself a favor and date someone else who values responsibility, has integrity and is not into mythomania. or date a latino guy if you need a reality check and want to remind yourself how awesome those american/european/etc dudes actually are.
“Colombian men love to be right” : SPOT
ON!! That’s why I have a big experience of unsuccesful relationship with colombians!! ?? (despite this I keep looking for mr right colombian!)
I’m colombian ! ?
“Colombian man loves to be pampered, and loves to be right”. No doubt about that. It can be frustrating as a woman because you want to be pampered too, but Colombian men are used to being served first and catered to their every need. It should be more balanced to have less conflict and equally express love between each other. However, I love that Colombian men love to dance and be active in general!
It’s not always like that, I’m Colombian and I like to pamper and attend when I have a girlfriend because I like to be romantic and gentlemanly, not all Colombians are macho, some enjoy showing a single woman that we love and respect
Ha ha ha ha… As a Latina, and half Colombian, this is what you have to teach these men, they are taught that if they sell the big picture, they think that you will feel that you are valuable. The thing is, you have to call their bluff. Meaning if you are a coco sent woman you tell them, yeah, you are going to do ” this and that”. Yeah right, don’t need this bullshit romantic stuff. Just be yourself. And you will see them struggle, wait be honest?! Or they will be honest that is how I pick the bullshitters and the ones that I know who really want to be with me.