Confessions of Dating a Colombian Man

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  1. Veta says:

    I’m from Russia, my boyfriend and his family are from Colombia. We all moved to the US years ago and his family hates me for my culture… they yell and scream at him for dating me and he doesn’t have the balls to tell them to respect his choice. He just lets them talk crap and belittle me because he said it doesn’t make him love me any less… but now they basically control him and he barely sees me in fear of making them angry, they’re so controlling 🙁

  2. Derek says:

    I can’t like this article enough. Unfortunately Colombian men in the gay scene are exactly like this, although their relationships with their families might be a little more complicated. Colombian men (gay or straight) are all about selling you on the “we’re hot-blooded and dance better than those gringos”. What another commenter said is so true: “hot-blooded” is just a code word for acting like an entitled brat/man-child. They need to be pampered by you every moment of the day, and being “passionate” just means wanting sex constantly, screaming, fighting and throwing things all night long. Be careful dating someone from a culture that bases relationships off of cheap ubiquitous soap operas. All drama, no substance.

    Colombian men: great for a short-term fling. They ARE generally fit and know what they’re doing in bed. But if you want stability, minimal drama, a RESPONSIBLE man, then stick with an American, Canadian, or European. If someone asks me about Colombian men, I just say “Been there, done that”.

    And full disclosure. I lived in Colombia for 3 years. And my conclusions are not just based on my own experiences but those of my straight female friends, both Colombian and foreign.

  3. Andrew Macia says:

    Jade, this was a really good read. I wish it were longer. Having lived in Medellin, Colombia for just about 7 years now (I’m from California; however, my family is all Colombian) I’ve always been curious about how foreign women get along with Colombian guys. I wrote about my own dating experience,, but obviously, my view is onesided.

    I have a few gringa friends here, that have been living in Colombia for more than a couple years, and have learned that Colombian men are actually really good boyfriends. I mean there are a lot of stereotypes about guys here being very promiscuous and unfaithful. Regardless, through my friends’ experiences, they have proven that stereotype to be false.

    Nevertheless, everyone has their own expectations and their own realities. Personally, I think it best to keep an open mind and a positive attitude.
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  4. Janet says:

    But there solo handsome how do u resist there charm

  5. Paola Neira says:

    I was born in California however, I lived in Bogota for a year my junior year of highschool with aunts and uncles since my parents are Colombian. I was extremely appalled when I met up with my ex Colombian boyfriend 6 years later less than a week ago. He would not shut up about how he did not like how short my hair was and how disgusted he was with my belly button piercing and my two small tattoos I have under my boob (similar to Riri’s). We went out dancing and I was always told I was a pretty decent dancer at family parties. But midway through the first song we were dancing he told me that I was a terrible dancer and looked for someone else to dance with. I have never felt so down on myself than with him and I was extremely confused because he would also hold my hand and kiss me. I felt extremely turned off by his negativity. Not saying all Colombian men are like this but I just want to understand why he treated me this way and if there is a cultural wall that I do not understand

    • bogotastic says:

      I’m sorry to hear that! Sounds like you both had different expectations. Maybe he was more traditional?

      But apart from that, Being negative is not a cultural difference. Not all Colombians are like this 🙂

  6. I just met a Columbian man a few months ago.. Hes an entertainer and travels usually within driving distance every weekend. He invites me out to his shows a lot and we have hung out quite a few times after. He tells me we should build a friendship and go off that.. He tells me all the time how comfortable he is with me and how he feels he can talk to me about anything. Hes not shy thats for sure haha! When we are out he makes it seem like we are a couple. Does cute things ive never had to pay for anything etc.. but what I also noticed the few times we went out dancing is that hes also very touchy with other females. Makes me feel so stupid because here i am getting feelings for this man and I dont know if he is just playing with my emotions, or if he is really interested. Pleade help me with this.

    • bogotastic says:

      Thanks for sharing your story! This could also be a cultural difference. Latinos are generally more touchy. Not just with women. This might just be the way he’s used to interacting! See how he interacts with other guys and if you still have doubts, talk to him about it 🙂

  7. Stephen Willhite says:

    I have lived in Colombia for over a year and I am the United States. As for Jose attempt to generalize about not being able to find a “real man” in America( by the way those that live in North, Central ,and South America are all Americans) , I assure you he has spent little to no time in the United States. Being hot blooded is code for acting like a child. I have spent a lot of time with Colombian men and while I don’t agree with all the comments a lot of what was said rings true. I am married to a Colombian woman and you should hear her thoughts on Colombian men. It’s not very favourable. Some of them assume I can’t speak Spanish. One made a very vulgar comment which lead to my beating the shit out of him in the bar and dragging his ass out into the street and leaving him there. As for his hot blooded friends, they did not raise a hand to help him. A lack of passion for friendship perhaps?

  8. Jose Andres says:

    These “traits” were common in men all over the world up until the “Women’s Lib” movements of the 50’s-60’s. Now men in the USA are completely feminized and of course women have found a way to complain about that. Yes ladies, just like women in America yell and complain about being unable to find a “real man”, well, you ladies are the ones who caused this. Well not all ladies, but the ladies of the past. Enjoy it. I agree, there are no real men anymore. On the same note, real women don’t exist either.

    Veronica, I find it hilarious that you try to “teach these men”. Are they your dogs and need training? Hilarious. Try searching for a man in America. You won’t find one, but you will find plenty of males that would be willing to put up with your teaching and training.

    I am not Colombian but from this article I see nothing wrong with Colombian mens behavior. Seems like pretty normal attitudes in Latin and Asian countries. Remember that with true passion and intense romance also come true and intense jealousy and love. Latino men.. well.. we’re very passionate and hot blooded. You can’t have one without the other and I’m sorry, but you can’t “teach” someone to be passionate or romantic. It’s either in your, or not. As for dancing, yes, Colombian men AND women are amazing dancers.

    • Draco Caelestis says:

      LMAO, sure buddy. you might not be colombian, but you latino dudes all have the special snowflake syndrome, conveniently created by your moms…regretfully it runs in the family and culture. what a load of crap…but i guess dealing with one’s own integrity and responsibility is challenging when someone tells calls you mi rey, mi principe, amor de mi vida ever since their special little unicorn was born.

      truth be told, unless you particularly enjoy jealousy, drama and manipulations (in which case you might consider visiting a therapist because you’ve fallen into the pattern of liking pathology in your relationships) do yourself a favor and date someone else who values responsibility, has integrity and is not into mythomania. or date a latino guy if you need a reality check and want to remind yourself how awesome those american/european/etc dudes actually are.

  9. Roberta says:

    “Colombian men love to be right” : SPOT
    ON!! That’s why I have a big experience of unsuccesful relationship with colombians!! ?? (despite this I keep looking for mr right colombian!)

  10. Briana says:

    “Colombian man loves to be pampered, and loves to be right”. No doubt about that. It can be frustrating as a woman because you want to be pampered too, but Colombian men are used to being served first and catered to their every need. It should be more balanced to have less conflict and equally express love between each other. However, I love that Colombian men love to dance and be active in general!

    • Juan Felipe López says:

      It’s not always like that, I’m Colombian and I like to pamper and attend when I have a girlfriend because I like to be romantic and gentlemanly, not all Colombians are macho, some enjoy showing a single woman that we love and respect

  11. Veronica says:

    Ha ha ha ha… As a Latina, and half Colombian, this is what you have to teach these men, they are taught that if they sell the big picture, they think that you will feel that you are valuable. The thing is, you have to call their bluff. Meaning if you are a coco sent woman you tell them, yeah, you are going to do ” this and that”. Yeah right, don’t need this bullshit romantic stuff. Just be yourself. And you will see them struggle, wait be honest?! Or they will be honest that is how I pick the bullshitters and the ones that I know who really want to be with me.

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